A somatic narcissist is someone who is excessively focused on their physical appearance and sexual conquests. They are often preoccupied with how they look to others and are constantly seeking validation and attention. Their need for admiration and approval can be overwhelming, and they may go to great lengths to get it. These are some of the more common traits demonstrated by textbook somatic narcissists:
- Need for approval from others
- Obsessed with outer appearances and body image
- Vanity Fixation
- Abusive towards partners
- More interested in sexual relationships over romantic relationships
Need for Approval From Others
While most people desire approval from others, what makes a somatic narcissist stand out is that they only have room for approval and zero tolerance for criticism, especially when it comes to their physical appearance. They would rather hear a compliment thats a lie than an insult or critique that is a truth.
They tend to provide others with approval as well, but the person they are complimenting must meet their beauty standards or surpass them in order to receive such a compliment.
Obsessed With Outer Appearances and Body Image
Like stated above, somatic narcissists are overly obsessed with their outward image. While this is not a trait specific to somatic narcissists, it’s definitely prevalent in most people that have this character trait. That is because, to them, attractiveness or approval = self worth. Because of this, they will go to any length to make sure that they appear physically perfect and flawless in order to receive the compliments that boost their self worth.
Everyone wants to look good and feel good. That being said, somatic narcissist have no room for error when it comes to their vanity. Their skin must be embellishment free. Their clothes must be in pristine condition, most likely expensive, and perfectly ironed.
They also have no wiggle room in their daily diet, no matter the circumstances. In their mind, a “cheat meal” is unacceptable because it may open the door to their skin breaking out or for bloating to occur which is simply not okay.
Abusive Towards Partners
Somatic narcissists are typically abusive towards their partners because they cannot allow anyone around them to look better than them so they will go to dangerous lengths to keep their partners “in their place.” They will make sure their partner feels inferior, lucky to be with them, and will never feel as beautiful or handsome as they should because that would pose as a threat to a somatic narcissist.
As a result, the romantic partners of a somatic narcissist will most likely struggle with low self-esteem because the unwavering mental and emotional abuse will inevitably take its toll.
More Interested in Sexual Relationships Over Romantic Relationships
Because someone’s worth all comes down to appearances for a somatic narcissist, they easily favor sexual relationships over romantic relationships. That is because they want to feel a sense of validation in their performance as well as the feeling that someone desires them physically.
Because this type of satisfaction is hard for romantic relationships to sustain over long periods of time, a somatic narcissists try to keep their relationships, short, sweet, and rotating. That way they have access to other people who will provide them with the sexual satisfaction they need, while making them constantly feel desired by new people.