You begin to balance the divine feminine and divine masculine the moment you accept that both exist within you. One does not exist without the other, so you must welcome and acknowledge both. One cannot operate healthily without the other either. You must cultivate both, exercise both, and love both unconditionally.
The Universe has always been a place of wonder and awe in its effortless ability to maintain balance. We have deep reverence for the Universe and its mysteries. Its gentleness yet its fierceness. Its forgiving yet unforgiving duality. The light of the Sun and the dark side of the Moon, etc. The Universe is a case in point of balanced divine feminine and divine masculine energy. We recognize it in the Universe, so we respect it in all its power.
That being said, you are but one piece of the Universe. What exists on the macro-scale exists in you on the micro-scale. To balance the divine feminine and divine masculine, start to see the endless examples in nature. Observe the feminine and masculine qualities in others, and relate back to your being. The more you come to recognize, the more it becomes obvious to you. The more obvious, the more balanced. To then heal your divine feminine and divine masculine, you must first learn how to observe.
Observing Shadow Masculine and Shadow Feminine
Perhaps your parents, culture/society, or your peers taught you their version of what “acceptable” masculine or feminine behavior is. Unfortunately, but to no fault of their own, much of which they have taught us about masculinity or femininity actually belongs in the shadow realm.
The wounded masculine in the politician who says “my power and my needs are above the rest and whatever it takes to maintain my power, I can and will do by all means necessary.” We see the wounded feminine in the celebrity who says “I’m the fairest of them all” and ruthlessly breaks down others by criticizing their talents, abilities, or appearances. And we see the wounds of both in attitudes towards the environment through overconsumption that declares, “I dominate Nature. I control Nature, I don’t have to listen to Nature, and nothing it does can stop me from what I desire most.”
When we see examples of these energetics playing out around us, we can start a self-investigation. We can connect dots. How our wounded masculine or feminine energy might show through our personalities, ideals, and belief systems. This identification is the pathway to healing or balancing our own energies.