One of the most profound lessons from The Mastery of Love is that happiness never comes from outside of us. When you make anyone else responsible for your happiness, you give them the power to take it away.
Outlined earlier, every person has two versions of themselves. Version one, who they really are, and version two, who they pretend to be. And in every relationship, not just romantic, each person also has their own dream. Each dreamer cannot help but to dream their own way. No matter how much common ground exists within the relationship, the differences in their dreams will remain. For any relationship to work, there must be both an acceptance and mutual respect for each other’s different dreams.
Coined the “track of love” and “track of fear” by Ruiz, two emotions make dreams; love and fear. Ruiz tells us to think of the two tracks as ways of seeing how we are living our lives. If you are in the track of love, you have no obligations, resistance, or expectations. Love is based on respect, justice, kindness, compassion, responsibility, and is always unconditional. “I love you the way you are and you are free to be the way you are.”
The track of fear is the opposite. The track of fear is based on obligations, resistance, and expectations. Fear has conditions, likes to control, is pitiful and selfish. Those living in the track of fear are also avoidant of responsibility. Ruiz says that anger, sadness, and jealousy are just fear with masks on. Sadly, Ruiz claims that most people live their lives in the track of fear.